Lead your child along their path to greatness.

~ Monica J.


It Began When…

She was a quiet little girl of three, & it was her first year of nursery school. The new teachers weren’t anything like the older women who babysat for her at home. Here the teachers had clear favorites. She knew by the way that they made fun of her that she wasn’t one of them.

When she didn’t measure up, she was singled out & forced to stand on her cot.

She went home humiliated & afraid to talk with her mom about this awful experience, and she began yelling at her dolls. Finally, after witnessing unexplained behavior changes and a total lack of communication from the teachers, her mom withdrew her. But the damage was done.

I was that little girl. And I’ll never forget that feeling of loneliness, shame and fear as I looked out at the room from my cot while the other kids and teachers looked back at me.

Whenever I see that same look of pain in a child’s eyes, I feel it deeply. And knowing that the pain is avoidable is at the heart of my work with children today.

It Begin When…

She was a quiet little girl of four, & it was her first year of nursery school. The new teachers weren’t anything like the older women who babysat for her at home. Here the teachers had clear favorites. She knew by the way that they made fun of her that she wasn’t one of them.

When she didn’t measure up, she was singled out & forced to stand on her cot.

She went home humiliated & afraid to talk with her mom about this awful experience, and she began yelling at her dolls. Finally, after witnessing unexplained behavior changes and a total lack of communication from the teachers, her mom withdrew her. But the damage was done.

I was that little girl. And I’ll never forget that feeling of loneliness, shame and fear as I looked out at the room from my cot while the other kids and teachers looked back at me.

Whenever I see that same look of pain in a child’s eyes, I feel it deeply. And knowing that the pain is avoidable is at the heart of my work with children today.

Luckily my next preschool teacher saw ME – as a unique individual with preferences and feelings. Instead of reprimanding me when I didn’t understand, she guided me to find my own voice. I could get help with solving problems without fear of punishment – and when I knew the answer, I could feel proud that “I did it!”

Luckily my next preschool teacher saw ME – as a unique individual with preferences and feelings. Instead of reprimanding me when I didn’t understand, she guided me to find my own voice. I could get help with solving problems without fear of punishment – and when I knew the answer, I could feel proud that “I did it!”


I started So Family because I believe parenting is about embracing the journey of getting to know your child and guiding them to be their best selves, wherever they are in their development.

 


Hi, I’m Monica. I have a Masters Degree in Early Childhood and Special Education. As an early childhood development expert, I have the tools to assess where any child is in each of the stages of development, from social skills to problem solving. But, I also know that there’s a huge difference between seeing these stages as milestones of achievement in a competition with other children and parents, and using them as tools to understand and guide your child as an individual.

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I know that there’s a huge difference between seeing these stages as milestones of achievement in a competition with other children and parents, and using them as tools to understand and guide your child as an individual.

Let’s figure out the difference and set a clear plan for your child. We should talk.

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